Jennifer & John
(by John)
My story actually begins almost 15 years before Jennifer and I were married. I had been married before which ended in a very sad unwanted divorce. I mention this first as a preamble because prior to the end of my first marriage, we sought out traditional “Christian counseling” in an effort to save that marriage.
We met for the traditional one hour-a-week, would spend 30-45 minutes of that hour trying to identify an issue and end up with a big open wound and only 10 minutes to attempt to address it. The last 5-10 minutes were spent writing a check for that hour. Nothing, as you can imagine, got adequately addressed and dealt with.
My shocker from this experience was that our counselor told my “ex” that he could go either way . . . if she wanted to divorce, he would help her or if she wanted to try to make the marriage work he would help her with that. Long story short, she chose to divorce and there began my skepticism with the whole concept of Christian marriage counseling. . . .
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Below you will find some of the classes, lectures, and group meetings we have offered in the past at churches or colleges in the Houston area. These opportunities are not currently available.
The WARM UP:
Six Essential Attitudes to Resolve Conflict with Your Wife
Men’s Small Group Meeting
There are six essential attitudes of the heart necessary to resolve conflict with your wife. If you apply them, you will resolve conflicts. If you don’t, you won’t. It’s really that simple.
Ever have conversations like this?
Wife: “I can’t believe you didn’t take the trash out like you said you would!”
Husband: “We’ll maybe I would take the trash out if you weren’t so angry and demanding in the way you tell me to take the trash out!”
Wife: “I shouldn’t have to even tell you to take the trash out; you should just see it and do it!”
Husband: “Maybe I would do more around the house if you were more grateful for the things I actually do”
Many couples fall into an endless cycle of “I would not have done this if you had not done that!” This conversation clearly violates “The Log & Speck Principle,” warm up step 3. The Bible tells us to “take the log out of our own eye, then we will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye” (Matt. 7:3-5). This is perhaps one of the biggest reasons most couples cannot resolve their own arguments. They keep trying to expose their partner’s flaw, before they fully resolve their own. It never works. Never! This is why God instructs us to fully commit to “The Log & Speck Principle” and at least 5 other essential principles.
Session 1—I commit to have my ultimate goal to be ________ ____________ (Rom. 8:29)
Session 2—I commit to seek and be open to know ways I am not ____ ________ (Ps. 139:23-24)
Session 3—I commit to fully apply the ______ ______ __________ principle (Matt. 7:3-5)
Session 4—I commit to walk in the _______ by ___________ _________ (1 Jn. 5:14,15; Eph. 5:18)
Session 5—I commit to transfer my _______ to ___ and focus on my ___________ (Phil. 2:5-10)
Session 6—I commit to develop and use the skill of ____________ ______________ (Rom. 12:15)
When?
Wednesday mornings (5:45-7:30am), includes continental breakfast
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Wednesday evenings (6:30-8:30pm, one week later)
September 23-October 21, 2009
Where?
Mornings:
Tallowood Center
10405 Katy Freeway
Houston, TX 77024
Interactive Map and Directions
Evenings:
Tallowood Main Campus, Fireplace Room
555 Tallowood
Houston, TX 77024
Interactive Map and Directions
Detailed Map of Tallowood Campus
Cost
Completely free!
Includes continental breakfast.
Contact & Registration
Kim Holton
(713) 468-8241 ext. 8134
Marriage Builder Series
Couples’ Group Classes
Get your PhD (Perfecting Home Development) in the essential skills of marriage and family satisfaction and become a marriage champion—one who wins at marriage by conquering its many enemies. Learn to fight off the “two-getherness-killers” like anger, fear, worry, anxiety, and resentment that can build walls of distance in a marriage.
Don’t just tie the knot, but tighten the knot as you strengthen abilities to incorporate relevant and practical biblical principles of harmonious connecting. Enjoy experiential activities alone with your partner guaranteed to fortify your marriage and family relationships.
Whether you want to make a great marriage even better or resurrect a dead marriage, learn the secrets of having “a friendship on fire” as you become better friends and lovers.
- Essential Relationship Concepts
- Relating to Your Spouse
- Reconciliation and Recovery
Child care available by reservation!
When?
First Tuesday of every month (6:30-8:00pm)
Through December 7, 2010
Where?
Tallowood Main Campus, Grand Room
555 Tallowood
Houston, TX 77024
Interactive Map and Directions
Detailed Map of Tallowood Campus
Cost
Completely free!
Includes child care (by reservation).
Contact & Registration
Kim Holton
(713) 468-8241 ext. 8134