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| In This Issue • Marriage Skill 29: Interpersonal Needs—Met or Unmet • Two-Day Marriage Clinic™ Early Registration Ending • Three-Day AMC™ and New Office Location |
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Interpersonal Needs—Met or Unmet What is the result of our interpersonal needs being met or unmet? The outcomes can be very different for each person. When attention is not met, some might become boisterous and extroverted, as they demand attention. Others may withdraw and become reclusive to avoid further pain. Attention When need is met—good sense of identity, confident, feelings of importance, secure, willing to be a servant, attentive to others’ needs. When need is not met—promiscuous, boisterous, feeling worthless, delinquency, shy and withdrawn, concentration on appearance and pleasing others. Acceptance When need is met—secure, confident, feelings of worth, relaxed, peaceful. When need is not met—rejected, angry, hopeless feelings, “why bother, nothing I do is ever enough.” Appreciation When need is met—positive and optimistic, good work ethic, grateful, encouraging others. When need is not met—easily discouraged and pessimistic, performance-oriented, insecure, self-doubt. Support When need is met—encouraged, grateful, feeling loved, sensitive to opportunities to give in return. When need is not met—discouraged, weariness, fear of failure, timidity. Encouragement When need is met—can do attitude, positive and optimistic, creative, productive. When need is not met—lack of confidence, failure complex, defeatist attitude, pessimistic, frustrated, withdrawn, frustrated. Affection When need is met—secure, free to give, feelings of being loved and comforted, healthy boundaries with the opposite sex. When need is not met—aloof and distant, uncomfortable being physically close to people, cold and unfeeling, promiscuous, flirting, clinging to others of the opposite. Approval When need is met—productive, confident, good sense of identity. When need is not met—search for approval, performance-oriented, workaholic, lack confidence, insecure, confused, fearful. Security When need is met—full of faith, confident, giving, grateful, positive, adaptable, flexible. When need is not met—fearful, insecure, controlling, possessive, anxious, worrier, negative, rigid, self-reliant. Comfort When need is met—caring, compassionate, positive, giving, sensitive, self-confident, loving. When need is not met—unable to comfort others, feelings of being alone and empty, volatile, promiscuous, avoidance of emotions, emphasis on fixing situations and people, obsessive-compulsive orientation. Respect When need is met—respectful of others, freedom to grow up, giving, sensitive, loving, positively assertive. When need is not met—feelings of worthlessness and inferiority, insecure, demanding, intolerant, victim mindset. |
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| About Karl Elkins Karl Elkins, LPC, ThM, MA, CSC, BCPCC, DAPA has 26 years of counseling experience and is an Adjunct Instructor at College of Biblical Studies teaching Marriage and Family courses. He is Founder and President of Christway Counseling Center P.C. specializing in marriage and family counseling. He earned a Master’s degree in Theology from Dallas Theological Seminary, and a Master’s degree in Counseling from Colorado Christian University. He was formerly on staff with Intimate Life Ministries and director of a Houston Minirth-Meier New Life Clinic. He is married to Terry Elkins and has two grown children. |
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