1. Acceptance: Receiving another person willingly and unconditionally especially when the other’s behavior has been imperfect. Being willing to continue loving another in spite of offenses or differences. (Romans 15:7). “Therefore, accept one another, just as Christ also accepted us to the glory of God.”

2. Admonition: Constructive guidance in what to avoid; to warn; gentle and friendly reproof. (1 Thessalonians 5:14) “We urge you, brethren, admonish the unruly, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with everyone.”

3. Affection: Expressing care and closeness through physical touch. Saying “I love you.” (Romans 16:16) “Greet one another with a holy kiss . . .” (Mark 10:16) “And they were bringing children to him so that He might touch them . . . And He took them in His arms and began blessing them, laying His hands on them.”

4. Appreciation: Expressing gratefulness through thanks, praise or commendation. Recognizing effort or accomplishment. (Colossians 3:15b) “. . . and be thankful . . .” (1 Corinthians 11:2) “Now I praise you because you remember me in everything and hold firmly to the traditions just as I delivered them to you.”

5. Approval (Blessing): Expressed commendation; to have or express a favorable opinion of; think and speak well of; building up or affirming another; affirming the fact and importance of a relationship. (Ephesians 4:29) “Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word that is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear.”

6. Attention: Conveying appropriate interest, concern, and care; taking thought of another; entering another’s world. (1 Corinthians 12:25) “. . . so that there may be no division in the body, but that the members may have the same care for one another . . .”

7. Comfort: Responding to a hurting person with words, feelings, and touch; to hurt with and for another’s grief or pain; to give consolation with tenderness. (Romans 12:15b) “. . . and mourn with those who mourn . . .” (Matthew 5:4) “Blessed are those who mourn for they will be comforted.”

8. Encouragement: Urging another to persist and persevere toward a goal; stimulating toward love and good deeds. (1 Thessalonians 5:11) “Therefore encourage one another and build up one another . . .” (Hebrews 10:24,25) “And let us consider how to stimulate one another to love and good deeds . . . encouraging one another . . .”

9. Instruction: Modeling, equipping and training in how to live. (2 Timothy 3:16) “All Scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, reproof, correction and training in righteousness.”

10. Respect: Valuing and regarding another highly; treating another as important; honoring another; conveying great worth. (Romans 12:10b) “Give preference to one another in honor . . .”

11. Security (Peace): Harmony in relationships; freedom from fear or threat of harm. (Romans 12:16, 18) “Be of the same mind toward one another . . . If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men.”

12. Support: Coming alongside and gently helping with a problem or struggle; providing appropriate assistance; to help carry a load. (Galatians 6:2) “Bear one another’s burdens, and thereby fulfill the law of Christ.”

Adapted from, Top Ten Relational Needs, Dr. David Ferguson, Intimate Life Ministries

 

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